Le Grande Tour of Gig Harbor with Another Bellevue Attorney

On 5.31.09 I met another attorney, WH, who drove down from Bellevue to meet me. He had two hearing aids and it was difficult talking in the noisy Tides Tavern. We then walked through the town, went to the galleries and nicer shops, then hopped into the Red Miata with the top down. It was warm in the sun today, but he did not want to stop at his car for his hat or sun glasses.........He liked the Miata, and the noise it makes when I vroom vroom. It was a good day to tour uptown, and Burnham Drive so he could get a feel for the area.......From there we went to Massimos where we had a lovely table on the deck over the water, and we had an excellent meal. I offered to pay for my own meal, which he accepted, and the more we talked, the more I could see that there just was not any chemistry........This man was interesting in that, like CJ, he talked about his successful friends and their contributions to society, but he appeared to be hanging onto their coattails. Because they were successful and because they were his friends, this somehow enhanced his own image.....No chance of a relationship with this man......msd

Breakfast with CJ

On 5.30.09 CJ wanted to go with me to breakfast in Gig Harbor because he had an errand to run in Tacoma. It turned into lunch instead of breakfast due to a fawn that was left by the mother deer at CJ's friend's Barn. CJ & I took the fawn to try and find a vet to examine it, however no vets were open on the weekend, so we returned it to the Barn. I was willing to pay the vet if we had found one.......The friend who owned the barn was the same friend who danced with me at the dance. He was very concerned and loving with the fawn, as was CJ......Our lunch when we finally ate was at the Purdy Pub, and was not very good. We tried Massimos but they were not open that early......msd

Lunch with CJ

On 5.29.09 I saw a client in the same town where CJ was working on a house so he asked me to meet him for lunch. I was happy to go and wanted to see the restaurant TapRock which replaced the old Mistral which had burned down. The food was good, and CJ was very pleasant. He wants to do more things with me, but I am trying to fly more, so this will be difficult......msd

Date with Pilot and Boat Owner from Mountains

On 5.24.09 I met a Match date at the Pine Cone Cafe, a landmark coffee shop in University Place. This man is about 70 yrs of age, and is raising a 10 yo granddaughter in a rural town between Mt Rainer and Mt St Helens. He owns an airplane that he keeps in a hanger close to the rural town. He also owns a $45000 boat house On Day Island in University Place which he agreed to show me today. It houses his trawler a three level boat.......I was told that he did not invite many of his Match dates on his boat because he finds it difficult to be there now that his wife has died.......The boat had items strewn all over the decks which made it difficult to walk anyplace. It was very very dirty and had not been cleaned in years......We went out under power to enjoy the warm and balmy weather on the sound, and then later went to eat at Anthony's in Gig Harbor.....Here the meal was not good, again, and I keep resolving not to return. The table next to us had a very loud inebriated couple, and at one point, the female stood up, then dived head first into the empty table next to her. This collapsed the table and broke all the glass ware......My date had an arrogant attitude which seemed to scream out at me, "you don't realize what a great bargain you would be getting with me. " ............ He was sloppy in eating, letting food accumulate around his mouth and drop into his lap........No chemistry and definitely not my type.....msd

Memorial Day Dance at Longbranch Improvent Marina

On 5.23.09, Memorial Day Weekend, CJ took me to dinner at Massimo's overlooking the Purdy Spit Bay. Very lovely evening meal out on the deck over the water, and once again I paid my own bill. From there we drove to the dance at Longbranch. The marina was filled with boaters tied together ( rafted they call it ) and a large hall was filled with music played by a great seventies band. CJ danced until he couldn't dance any more, and he didn't even dance all the dances. ........ A friend of CJ's danced with me many times. He had really had a lot to drink. His girl friend told me she received a black eye and a broken fingernail after one of her dances with him , and she was concerned about explaining this to her co-workers at the office where she was the manager..... During the dance an inebriated woman fell then complained about her neck hurting. CJ's friend sobered up to attend to this injured lady because he has a Captain's License which teaches emergency first aid. A friend of the injured lady took photos of this woman on the floor being cared for....... CJ does not drink, and he was sober driving me home safely......He did kiss me goodnight very lightly, knowing I was not inclined to do more of the same........msd

2nd date with tall guy from Poulsbo

This man ( C J ) invited me to go with him to the movies to watch Angels and Demons. We saw it at the plush new Galaxy theatre which will actually serve alcohol and food in the adult section....... We each pay our own way when we go out. I offered early on to do this because I do not expect to have a relationship with this man. Knowing that now, I do not want to take his money, but just plan to enjoy his companionship.........This man was an electrical engineer, but things have not gone well for him. He is now doing minor home repairs with very low paid, low skilled laborers who do not stay with him long. His life is very difficult, and the more he tells me about how he lives, the more I can see we can never be more than friends. After the early movie we went to dinner, which was just OK. I would not go to the Monsoon again. .....msd

New Date 3 This Week

Today a retired attorney who has some money drove from Edmonds to Gig Harbor to meet me at the TIDES TAVERN.  He is one of the oldest men I have met, but since he was only two years older than me, I was hoping he was OK......His hearing and speaking was OK, but he seemed very slow in his speech at times.  Other times he was faster, so I am not sure what happened with that......He told me he has macular degeneration in one eye which causes some problems for him....He did not tell me during lunch that he becomes winded upon any slight uphill exertion but I found out about that later......He talked at length about a woman he wanted as a friend but who kept telling him to find someone else.  He did not appear to comprehend that she did not want him in her life.  He complained because she told him she would not "smooch" with him....He has no outside activities in his life.  He stays home does oil painting and makes tiles.  He does not belong to any groups, organizations or do any charity work.  He does not have any more friends, "they all aged and drifted away"..... He does not own a boat or RV and does not have any social life except for this new attempt to meet women at MATCH......He picks at his skin constantly, which is very ugly during lunch.  He picked a bloody scab off his forehead twice during lunch, even after I told him the first time that it was very gross to see him do that........He accused me of nagging him when I offered him sun block for riding in the Miata with the top down, and he refused my offer to stop by his car to get his hat to cover his bald head......He was barely able to get up the hill out of the TIDES TAVERN, and was puffing so badly I asked  if he was OK.  In Tacoma we walked between the Glass Museum across to Union Station but he was so winded I asked if he wanted to stay there while I went to get the car for him.  He said yes, he was not able to make it on foot....... We had a long discussion regarding the necessity for exercise but he was not interested in that.  He was aware "if he didn't use it he would lose it" but doesn't care.  I finally concluded that this is one depressed man, who barely has any redeeming social value ( definition of an obscenity ).  He may be rich but all the money in the world could not bring me to have a relationship with him.............   

New Date 2 This Week

Yesterday evening at TIDES TAVERN I met my 2nd MATCH contact for the day.  He's a tall good looking man ( except for dark teeth ) who has a winning personality.  He was pleasant to me and to the staff, joking around with the male waiter.  I felt a connection to him immediately which was purely physical attraction.......He liked me too he said, and invited me to a boat party and big dance during the Memorial Day Weekend......This man has numerous physical complaints which he discusses at length.  Most of the complaints relate to his pain from not properly caring for his injuries.  He tore both rotator cuffs and did not have them repaired.  His back and knees also bother him, and he has done nothing to fix those......I am wondering if perhaps he uses his complaints and symptoms as a way of getting pain medication.  I will find out soon enough, I am sure.....He does not own a boat of his own but has lots of buddies who invite him along on their boats.  He leases land and bought a house in Suquamish at the mouth of the Agate Pass......He runs his handyman business out of his home, and hires laborers to assist him with the heavy lifting etc.........He still attempts to do many physical activities within the scope of his ability.  He plays golf, works on his house, and has the attitude that he will do as much as he can within his physical capability........Very cheerful to be around when not discussing his aches and pains.........Now if I can figure out how to encourage him to get his teeth cleaned and bleached, he might be a possibility.....       

New Date 1 This Week

His profile sounded upbeat and active, his photos robust and chipper but when he walked in the door, it was all downhill from there.  He was far from robust, instead was small boned and shorter than me.   His profile said he was 5'9" but he is just another man who does not know he has shrunk. His teeth were misaligned, which detracted a great deal from his smile........As we talked, his lethargy became more apparent. He could not tell me about how he spends his day or his weeks. Our communication was very strained because of the fact that he is very hard of hearing coupled with being hard to understand because of  a very small high pitched voice. .....He retired from the auto industry at age 52, and worked off and on doing other things in sales.  He has slowed down so much he is almost at a standstill.......At this time he has sold his large home and bought a smaller one to downsize.  He has no pets and does not want any until he cannot travel anymore.  Travel to him is to spend the winter in Mexico or Belize to be around the water activities.......I paid for my own meal, which he accepted.  I thanked him for traveling "such a great distance from Poulsbo to Gig Harbor" to meet me.  Upon his arrival he had complained about the terribly long trip:)).  He usually only meets women within ten miles radius. definitely not a man for me. The Tides once again has weeded out another unsuitable MATCH contact.......     

Four Dates Scheduled for This Week

Because I am not working this week, I have time to meet more men from MATCH.com.  At this moment in time, I have two new dates scheduled for today and one for Saturday. Including the 2nd date I had last night, this would be a record for me.  Never in my life that I can recall, have I ever had four dates in one week with four different men....... 

A 2nd Date for a Change

I was invited on a second date by accident this week. I heard my cell phone go off & when I looked at the number I did not recognize it. I called it, and it was the pleasant gentleman who owns the Catalina boat. It turns out he did not place the call to me then but the week before, however he immediately invited me out to dinner for last night.......We met at Woodys on the Water in Tacoma right next to the glass museum, one of my favorite locations. The food prices were very reasonable, and I enjoyed some flaky Halibut and a glass of wine. It took great pains for me to be patient and kind to this man. He is a good, decent man, who I unfortunately find very dull and boring. He ate very slowly and it took two laborious hours for him to finish his meal. I offered to help pay, but he politely acknowledged my offer and refused.....After we ate, I was taken aboard his lovely white and green Catalina boat. He keeps it very neat and clean, and it is the current love of his life. He offered to put in a movie for us to watch, but I was way beyond my tolerance level and told him I needed to go home.... I do not think I can spend much time with this man alone. He has offered to take my friends to go sailing, so perhaps it might be easier with other people around. I am sure this will never be a romance.......

Date 1 This Week

Yesterday I met a local man for a change. I was early and he called to say he would be late due to traffic. He called as he was pulling into the lot, looking for directions to the new wine sipping bar in which I was waiting. I told him I could see his car, and he apologized for having a dirty car. He said he was taking off his grubby jacket and he left it in the dirty car.........He was cleaner and better groomed than my last three dates, but again, his oral hygiene left a lot to be desired. Men in this area have the worst teeth I have ever seen, and these dates have the financial means to improve them.......He did not have any physical disabilities that were obvious, and he was able to hear me without hearing aids. ......He was pleasant to talk with; he openly discussed his recently deceased wife of 6 months and his grieving spells.......He also discussed a woman out of state with whom he recently spent a week, who he believes has too many physical problems to be a good match for him. "I just went through that with my wife, and I can't do that again". Problem is he has not told her this, and he has made plans to meet her again for another week on vacation......In spite of all this, he would like to take me for a sail on his very beautiful 36ft Catalina boat. He told me I could invite a friend to go with me, which is very generous of him, so I told him I would do that....I do not anticipate a romance with this man, but he is very pleasant and has an interesting social life.

Date 3 this week

Today's date,  the gentleman renting an apartment in an expensive area in Seattle, was late in meeting me. I experienced some relief when I saw him walk in because there was another gentleman who looked a little bit like my date sitting at the bar.  The man at the bar was quite UNattractive and was leering at me......My date was not too bad looking, but again it did not appear that he took any special pains to upgrade his appearance to meet me. He had on a faded & stretched black long sleeve jersey top covered by a scroungy vest...........He was the one date this week that did not have an obvious physical disability but that soon changed when he immediately told me he had a severe hearing loss.  Sure enough he had two hearing aides; I spent the remainder of the date taking deliberate measures to be sure he could hear me, repeating myself frequently. Have you ever tried to whisper sweet nothings into a deaf ear; it ruins the entire mood and then some......I have often said that this restaurant weeds out most of my disabled dates because of the steep hill leading in and out, and because of the very poor acoustics which amplifies every noise and clatter in the place........This was the 3rd date this week who had teeth I would not consider kissable.  Just as a man can tell within a few minutes if the woman he meets is one he wants to date, I can tell when a man opens his mouth to smile or talk whether or not this would be a mouth I would want to kiss. ..... This man was not very exciting. He talked about grieving the loss of his son last year.  He talked about his enjoying meditation, and playing golf.  He enjoys walking in Seattle and along the water, and enjoys living there. He did not talk about any hobbies or anything fun.....I cannot picture myself having a relationship with him.......I suspect I need someone that is a little outrageous, who is unpredictable and does not always conform to convention........          

Date 2 this week

This gentleman had called ahead to tell me his car seat was stuck so he would be late.  He was even later than he expected to be. ....... He too was much shorter than his stated height however much of that was due to the fact that he was bent over from the hips and could not stand up straight.  He told me he has hip contractures from once being a logger however his profile stated he is in perfect health....He seemed to be trying very hard to relate to me, but I could see how difficult this was for him.  He was stiff, with a tight jaw, and an inability to look at me directly.  He kept looking to the left or to the right of my face when he spoke to me.......It was almost painful being with this man due to his obvious discomfort.  He ate some lunch and was then on his way to another destination in another state.........He had told me on the phone that he had some successes with match, but now that I have met him, I wonder how that happened.......     

Date 1 this week

This gentleman was kind enough to meet me in my home town.  He was on time and waiting for me. He was shorter than his stated height, and this might be because he still believes he is the same height he was before he reached the old geezer state.........As far as I could determine he had made no special attempts at grooming, showing up in clothes he might throw on for the grocery store.........His photos on MATCH were not unattractive, however I was very aware that he did not show us his teeth in the photos.  I am learning that this is a very good clue that the closed mouth smiler has very bad teeth.  Sure enough, this date has misaligned top and lower jaw, with very brown and mottled teeth. Needed lots of dental work years ago.........This date has a Phd, and had been a university professor before retiring.  Brains apparently have nothing to do with self esteem or self confidence. This man appeared to have neither......... Our main topic of discussion for two hours was his recently failed relationship.  The woman was, in his hostile opinion, totally responsible for 1) their having a miserable relationship and 2) the failure of that miserable relationship...... On the other hand, I think it is safe to say he was totally responsible for the failure of our first meeting with no hope at all for a relationship.........Did I forget to say there was no chemistry between us:))